My Life with the Completion Process
Intro
For the past five years, the Completion Process — developed by Teal Swan — has been one of the invisible threads weaving through my healing, the way I support others, and how I make sense of reality itself. I’ve never formally written about it before — maybe because it never felt like a method I learned, but rather something I remembered. Not a technique to master, but a natural function of being that I had forgotten how to use — and then, gratefully, found again.
At its core, the Completion Process is a guided inner journey designed to help us fully feel, understand, and resolve unresolved experiences from the past. It leads us gently into the heart of our wounds, traces them back to their original roots, and supports us in re-experiencing, healing, and reintegrating what was once fragmented.
That fragmentation is emotional in nature — it happens when overwhelming experiences force us to split off parts of ourselves just to survive. These fragments carry our pain, our unmet needs, and the truths we couldn't process at the time. The Completion Process helps us retrieve these parts, restoring a sense of inner coherence and emotional wholeness.
In this post, I’ll share how the Completion Process has changed my life, what it actually is, how it helps you stop recreating the past, and real client stories to help you understand how it works in practice.
From Struggle to Self-Reconnection
My Story
I’ve spent years trying to fix myself, trying to be good enough, to be healthy enough, radiant enough, healed enough, magnetic enough. To be someone who didn’t feel shame, or anxiety, or like a fraud. Someone who wasn’t secretly scared and lonely and doubting himself in every step.
I’ve spent years trying to fix the effects of trauma, Trying to rise above it — but nothing really changed. At least not in the way I truly wanted. Not until I learned how to go toward it. How to meet the wound. How to walk back into that moment where everything froze, and sit with the part of me who got left behind. How to be with him.
The Completion Process isn’t a technique I learned and applied to clients. It’s a path I have walked through my own fire, over and over again. And it changed my life.
It has been a journey from trying to fix the symptoms to healing their root cause, from wanting to feel good to being willing to feel, from asking “what’s wrong with me” to asking “what happened to me”.
It brought me back to myself. To my body, to my capacity to feel, to my sense of meaning, purpose, and love. To a sense of being rooted and whole, even when life is hard.
Why This Process Resonates So Deeply With Me
I’m going to be very upfront about it: I don’t think I’d be alive today if I hadn’t found this work. And if I were still alive, I’m certain I’d be emotionally and mentally crippled—trapped in self-destructive patterns, cut off from love and affection, and disconnected from purpose, joy, and meaning. I’d be light years away from the life I’ve built.
When I discovered shadow work and Teal Swan’s Completion Process, something clicked. Since then, I’ve been living and breathing this approach. It’s become one of my deepest commitments—to be present and attuned to myself and to others. And out of all the frameworks I’ve explored, the Completion Process remains the most powerful tool I’ve found for developing, practicing, and expanding that capacity. It is not the only tool that I find useful, but it is certainly the one that is able to bring awareness and healing to the darkest places in consciousness.
My obsession with finding relief and inner safety transformed into a passion for manifesting a life that feels good, fulfilling, and meaningful. Every time I reach a summit, it’s not long before I’m drawn toward the next. But to keep climbing, I very often pass through a valley. Each new level of expansion reveals deeper parts of me still waiting to be seen, felt, and re-integrated.
As Teal says, “You can’t manifest yourself out of your shadows.” If you want to change your reality, you must integrate what’s holding you in the one you’re in. The Completion Process offers a map for doing that.
My Journey with the Completion Process: A Personal Awakening
The Completion Process is not just a method — to me, it describes a natural function of being human that we’ve collectively forgotten how to use. Like eating or sleeping, it feels intrinsic and essential.
When I first encountered Teal’s work it was like discovering a language for something I had already begun to uncover intuitively. I had just started spending long hours feeling into my past — revisiting memories, crying, opening. In the midst of trying to change my future, I was being pulled into the roots of my pain. Finding The Completion Process book and seeing it applied in Teal’s workshops on YouTube was a perfect synchronicity — a mirror of this new found path that I was already walking — on my own.
Since then, this process has become a pillar of both my healing and my work. It’s shaped how I understand myself, others, and reality itself. It is the most coherent and effective framework I’ve found for presence — for truly being with what is present inside you. And being that present, even when it's the most uncomfortable thing I could do, is one of my favorite things in the world. Because once I am with what is, I can do something about it. Being with reality as it is, is transformation and creation’s best friend — and that’s something I’m deeply passionate about.
The Completion Process has become a bridge between my inner and outer worlds — between trauma and meaning, fragmentation and wholeness. I genuinely believe that not having access to this inner technology is a form of handicap — like trying to walk or run without legs. Without it, we’re left disconnected from essential parts of ourselves, and from the possibility of a truly fulfilling and creative life.
What Is the Completion Process?
A Natural Function We Forgot
The Completion Process is a technique developed by Teal Swan, based on her personal discovery that she could find the root cause of her trauma, by using her sensations (even the most scary ones) as a window into those parts of herself that she had buried in her unconscious. This discovery is available to anyone — something you can learn from another, or find out on your own by sitting in the fire of your emotional despair, and deciding to go towards it, instead of away from it. It’s a natural function of the human psyche that we’ve lost contact with in our hyperintellectual, disconnected, trauma-conditioned culture.
It’s like digestion. When something happens that we can’t fully feel or process, it gets frozen. Trapped in the system. Like undigested food, it begins to rot. And it starts to affect our body, our thoughts, our emotions, our behavior.
Those unprocessed moments stay with us. And from the shadows, they recreate themselves in our current lives, over and over again. Because a part of us is stuck there. And it needs us to come back to rescue it.
What actually happens when we experience trauma is emotional fragmentation — parts of our psyche split off and become isolated from the rest of our being. They carry with them the frozen emotions, unmet needs, and unresolved beliefs of the moment they split. These parts aren’t gone; they’re just exiled, waiting to be seen and felt again. Without reintegration, they remain trapped in the past, subtly shaping how we feel, think, and relate. The Completion Process helps us find and bring these fragmented parts back into connection with the whole.
A Tool for Integration
The Completion Process is a way of walking back to those moments. Not just intellectually, but somatically and emotionally.
As defined by Teal Swan, it is:
"a trauma resolution technique that involves (1) entering into the subconscious mind, (2) discovering the suppressed emotions and memories associated with past trauma, (3) resolving the trauma through allowing and completing the experience, (4) and changing the outcome, bringing those fragmented parts back into integration."
This process is about remembering how to be with what’s there. It’s about reclaiming your capacity to go toward what hurts with compassion, precision, and presence.
How the Completion Process Helps You “Break Free”
Very simply put, the Completion Process is a way of healing the unresolved pain of your past, so you stop recreating it in your present — and can begin to create a different future.
When something overwhelming or painful happens and you don’t have the capacity or support to stay present with it, your system does something intelligent: it dissociates. You suppress, repress, and disown the experience, pushing it into the subconscious so you can survive. It’s a useful form of denial — when being with your present emotional experience is impossible, your system makes that experience go somewhere else inside you, to a place you can’t see.
But just because you can’t see it doesn’t mean it’s gone. It’s still there — in your body, in your choices, in the emotional patterns that keep repeating themselves. And whether you realize it or not, that unresolved pain continues to shape the life you’re creating.
The Completion Process guides you back into those hidden places — not to relive them for the sake of suffering, but to be with them. To offer presence, understanding, and healing to the parts of you that were left behind. In doing so, you bring those parts back into connection with the rest of you. You become whole again.
It’s a process of undoing the adaptations you made in order to survive, and opening space for the experiences you actually needed — and still need — to begin unfolding in your life now. This creates a powerful redirection of your future, because you’re no longer driven by unhealed pain, but by conscious choice.
We need to dissociate from some of our most violent or painful experiences in order to survive them. But if we want to live a life that isn’t bound to those same experiences playing out again and again, we need to go back and rescue the parts of ourselves that got stuck there. That’s why I see this process not as a technique, but as a natural human function — as essential as eating, sleeping, or reproducing. We need it to reclaim our freedom, our joy, and our ability to choose the life we want.
Here’s an imperfect but useful metaphor:
Imagine that, in early childhood, you were in a situation so bad that the only way to survive was to break your wrist — so you did. But then, even when you’re no longer in danger, your wrist stays broken. If you deny what happened, you’ll live with the limitations of that injury forever, thinking that’s just how it is. But if you want to write, climb trees, or do handstands again — the kind of life only a healed wrist can allow — you’ll need to acknowledge what happened and actively choose to heal it.
And then, before you know it, you're doing things you never thought you’d be able to do again. That’s what this process makes possible.
What I've Learned — Key Takeaways from Practicing the Completion Process
Whether I’m guiding someone else through it or receiving it myself, the Completion Process continues to teach me deep lessons about what it means to be human. Here are some of the most powerful takeaways from the hundreds of journeys I’ve taken and facilitated:
Our psyche is always trying to heal. Even our most destructive patterns are intelligent attempts at resolution. When you stop judging them and start listening, they become doorways to profound understanding.
What we resist often holds the key. The shame, the fear, the helplessness — the things we avoid — are often exactly where the gold is. Meeting them with presence is where true transformation begins.
Emotional fragmentation is real — and reversible. Many of us walk around as fractured versions of ourselves. Reconnecting with the parts we abandoned brings back not just pain, but lost vitality, creativity, and freedom.
Presence is more powerful than fixing. Trying to fix a wound usually reinforces the idea that something is wrong with it. But simply being present with the truth that’s arrising inside you, owning that part's reality as our own, allows healing to unfold in its own intelligent way.
There’s no such thing as being “too much.” We often fear that our pain, anger, or needs will overwhelm others. But when held in a safe, attuned space, those emotions soften. They complete themselves. And what remains is clarity and connection.
The past isn’t past or gone — it’s living inside you and creating your every day reality until you integrate it. Healing doesn’t require you to forget or move on. It requires you to go back with the support and awareness you didn’t have then — so that what happened can finally be completed.
Safety is key. The body will only let you go as deep as you feel safe to go. Cultivating internal and external safety — through breath, presence, and compassion — is essential for integration to happen.
You don’t have to do it alone. Some wounds were created in relationship — and they need relationship to be healed. Being witnessed, held, and seen in your pain is sometimes what finally allows it to transform.
What a Completion Process Session Looks Like
Every Completion Process session is a sacred, attuned space where your inner world becomes the priority. You don’t need to show up with a clear story or intellectual understanding — you simply need to bring a willingness to turn inward, feel what’s there, and stay connected to yourself throughout the journey. I’ll be there to guide you, step by step, with gentleness, clarity, and care.
The 8 Core Steps of the Completion Process
The process is a structured yet fluid experience. While Teal describes it in eighteen steps, I’ve compacted it here into nine:
Create a Safe Haven.
A safe and protected space where you can bring the parts of you that are ready to leave the place where their fragmentation occurred but still needing healing before they are ready to join and completely merge with you.Emotional Trigger Identification and Validation of the Feeling
We start with something you’re currently struggling with — a pattern, reaction, or emotion that’s active in your life. This trigger becomes the doorway into your subconscious by validating the feeling until it feels safe and positively owned.Accessing the Memory and Re-Experiencing it in First Person
As we follow the emotion inward, a memory or felt-sense impression arises — from the time when this feeling was first experienced. We don’t force anything, we follow the body and the images that surface, allowing you to fully experience and validate the feeling within this memory.Stepping into Adult Perspective within the Memory and Validating the Child’s feelings, needs, and expression.
From re-experiencing the memory to active visualization. Creating relief by meeting the child’s needs and allowing the child to express whatever it needs to express. Validating everything the child is feeling, expressing, and needing.Awaiting for Relief.
Repeating the previous steps as many times as needed until the child feels relief.Choosing to stay or to go
Giving the child the choice of staying in the altered memory, or of going to the Safe Haven.Entering the Safe Haven, Deactivating the Memory, Creating Healing and Meeting Needs.
Bring it to the Safe Haven, close the memory it came from or *pop* it like a ballon. Create purification and healing, so to create distance between the past and the present, and have a new, safe and fresh start in the Safe Haven. Meet the child’s needs within the Safe Haven.Give it the option to stay or to merge
Give it the option to stay in the Safe Haven or to Merge with you, the adult.Return to Conscious Perspective
Anchoring and grounding in you adult, conscious perspective.
What Clients can Expect
No two sessions are alike, because no two people are the same, and no two parts of you are the same. You might cry, rage, shake, or simply feel quiet and inward. Some sessions are intense, others deeply peaceful. All of it is welcome. I meet you where you are — and together, we go as deep as your system is ready for.
You are always in charge. I won’t force you to go where you don’t want to go. I’m here to guide, not push, unless you want me to push.
Clients often report:
A relief from chronic emotional or phisical tension or pain.
Insight into how present-day patterns are rooted in the past.
A deeper connection with their inner child and emotional body.
A felt sense of safety, inner peace, completion, spaciousness, lightness, clarity.
Increased capacity to feel and stay present with intense emotions.
Resolving and integrating long-lasting inner-conflits and conflict swith others.
That it’s OK to be who they are, where they are currently at, and feel how they feel.
Improved sleep, digestion, creativity, or energy levels.
The feeling of having reclaimed lost parts of them selves, feeling more together, more at home within themselves.
The sense of feeling guided and supported beyond the personal self - not being alone in their experience of themselves.
Reconection to a sense of purpose and sacredness.
Understanding the origin of certain behaviours, beliefs, fears, shame, and defenses.
New awareness of subconscious fears, needs, and motivations or desires.
A shift in how they view and relate with a partnes, parent, or past relationships.
Subtle or dramatic shifts in how they show up in life, with themselves, and in relationships.
A clear sense of inner truth and authentic desires.
Feeling self-compassion, forgiveness, and acceptance.
Trust in their inner-guidance and intuition.
The feeling of groundedness and presence with themselves, in relationships, and with their activites and responsabilities.
Being more aware of their real boundaries/preferences and owning them with clarity, confidence and assertiveness.
Feeling safer to be vulnerable and to express authentic feelings.
Taking steps toward positive change that previously felt impossible.
Who This Is For
This work is for those who feel like they’ve been stuck in the same emotional loops — no matter how much they understand themselves intellectually. It’s for those who want to go deeper than talk therapy or surface-level mindset work. It’s for those who are ready to feel, to take ownership of their reality, and to create change from the root’s up.
Signs This May Be Helpful For You:
You have intense emotional reactions to “small” things and don’t know why.
You feel disconnected from your body, emotions, or intuition.
You keep attracting similar painful dynamics in relationships or life.
You’re afraid of your feelings.
You’re caught in shame, self-blame, or people-pleasing.
You sense there are parts of you still living in the past.
You feel stuck.
You’re tired of bypassing or suppressing what hurts and want to actually heal it.
When It’s Not a Fit
The Completion Process requires a willingness to feel deeply and face the past. When you are in an active crisis, completely disconnected from a feeling of internal safety or seeking someone to fix you so you don’t have to feel these big scary feelings, we will support you in creating safety first, both within yourself, in your life, and with me. It’s often that creating and developing a feeling of safety in your connection and attachment to me will bleed into an increased feeling of safety in your life, helping us create enough safety so you become spacious and willing enough to feel the more scary feelings.
How to Prepare
Come with curiosity, not pressure.
Don’t try to “do it right”, trust the process and what arises within you.
Create a safe space for yourself where you won’t be interrupted.
Make sure you have time to rest or integrate afterward.
Know that whatever comes up is welcome. Nothing is too much.
A Word From Pedro
What I love most about this process is its honesty. It doesn’t try to convince you to feel better. It helps you be with what is, and in doing so, unlocks your natural healing intelligence. The body, the heart, the subconscious — they already know the way. They’ve just been waiting for your presence.
The Completion Process is still helping me walk back into the darkest, most painful moments of my life — and find the parts of me that got stuck there. Not to fix them, but to love them home.
If you’ve spent years trying to heal and nothing has truly shifted — if you long to feel yourself again or for the first time — this process might be the path that finally meets you where you are and opens the way to who you want (or are meant) to be.
Why It Matters: How Healing the Past Changes Your Future
Why the Past Keeps Repeating
Most people don’t realize that trauma isn’t stored in the past. It’s alive in the present. In our behavior, in our reactions, in our emotional body.
Until we meet it, it will keep running the show. Because when we dissociate from a part of ourselves, we’re not in relationship with it. And anything we’re not in relationship with, we can’t transform.
So our system keeps trying to get our attention, recreating the same dynamic that hurt us in the first place. Not to punish us. But so we can come back.
This is the call of our emotional fragments — the parts of us that froze in time. Because they were never resolved, they keep seeking resolution. They need us to come back, to listen, to feel, and to include them in our inner world again. Only through reconnection can we stop unconsciously repeating the past and start consciously creating something new.
We try to fix the effects of trauma, when what we need is to tend to the cause. And that’s what this process allows.
The Path Back to You
I often think of trauma like a bone that broke and was never set correctly. We adapt around it, but the root pain remains - it’s there to inform us that something needs our attention. When we try to use our body in a way that requires a well healed bone, and fail, we might think, “what’s wrong with me?”, but the right and much more beneficial question is, “What happened to me?”. As you realize that you have a broken bone that is not correctly set, that there’s nothing wrong with you but that you have an injury that needs healing, you have a choice now, you can change your current reality by healing this injury. By doing this you are bringing yourself closer to you, and you’ll be creating a future that reflect that self-alignment and connection to your intrinsic worth, instead of a future that is reflective of your self disconnection, and self-doubt.
The Completion Process is the precise work of tending to that fracture. Not by forcing it to heal, but by going back to the moment it broke. And gently, carefully, with presence and love—giving it what it needed.
It’s a way to meet what got stuck so it can move again. It’s a path back to you.
The language you need to remember to create the life you want
In this universe, life is always a reflection of your relationship with yourself. The parts of you that you’re disconnected from will mirror themselves as distance between you and the things you most want and care about. Re-owning the parts of yourself that you had to disown isn’t just about inner wholeness — it’s about becoming whole in your external life too. When you’re willing to feel and be present with all of who you are, all of life becomes more available to you.
I call it a language for a lack of better words, it’s an internal attunement system, an intrinsic part of our operating system.
It’s an incredibly intelligent design — the fact that we can dissociate and disown parts of ourselves in order to survive the unbearable. But it’s just as intelligent, and just as natural, that we’re able to reconnect with those parts once we’re safe, so that we can stop surviving and start truly living. It only makes sense: if we want to live lives that are full and complete, we need to be in connection and in a continual movement of completion with ourselves, even (or mostly) the parts of ourselves that are buried in the subconscious and that are keeping us stuck in the experiences that we want to change.
The Path of Becoming Whole is Our Responsibility to Ourselves and Each Other
Without the internal function that the Completion Process reminds us of, we’re left with only half of our survival technology: the part that fragments and suppresses in order to cope with pain. What’s missing is the other half—the capacity to return to ourselves, to re-integrate the parts we’ve exiled, and to reclaim our wholeness.
This isn't just a personal issue. It’s a collective one, it’s a social responsibility.
Most people on Earth today are living in states of inner disconnection—cut off from essential emotions, memories, needs, or aspects of their identity. To the degree that we are fragmented within, we are also limited in our capacity to form genuine, empathic relationships with others.
And when our self-connection breaks down, so does our ability to care.
Empathy and compassion are not optional traits; they are the bedrock of healthy connection, community, and progress. Without access to them, we are prone to react from fear, control, and shame deflection. We slip into narcissism, projection, and emotional bypassing—relating to others from a place of rejection, judgment, and disconnection, playing a zero-sum-game with ourselves and with everything around us.
In that state, we can’t take true, loving ownership of our well-being—or anyone else’s. We face the serious risk of losing our humanity.
That’s why this process matters. It’s not just inner work; it’s social responsibility. Every time we choose to reconnect with a lost part of ourselves, we are casting a vote for the kind of humanity we want to live in. We’re saying: “I will not participate in a world built on suppression, disconnection, and survival alone.”
We can’t build a harmonious future if we’re still at war with ourselves.
Re-connection is how we recover our humanity—person by person, part by part.
Real People, Real Healing: Client Stories
Johanna
Johanna came to me feeling anxious about attending a friend’s dinner where her ex-partner would also be present. On the surface, it seemed like typical social discomfort. But through the Completion Process, we discovered something deeper.
We began by creating a safe inner space where Johanna could fully welcome and feel her anxiety. As she sat with this feeling, memories started surfacing — specifically, a recurring childhood experience of her mother abruptly leaving the room whenever the phone rang. That younger version of her felt abandoned and powerless, and this old pain was now echoing in the anticipation of seeing her ex.
Using the Completion Process, we guided Johanna back into the reality of that younger self. Instead of leaving her alone in that moment like her mother once did, Johanna met her with presence, reassurance, and connection. She offered her inner child the very experience she needed back then — one of safety in togetherness.
From that place of reconnection, a clear insight emerged: what would make this part of her feel safe was to not go through the upcoming dinner alone. So we co-created a plan. She would spend time with a close friend beforehand, go to the dinner with them, check in once or twice during the evening, and come home together afterwards. This wasn’t about avoiding discomfort — it was about responding to it with presence and compassion.
As a result, Johanna felt more grounded and confident. Her inner child no longer felt abandoned, and other parts of her were free to enjoy the evening — reconnecting with friends and even speaking to her ex without fear or emotional overwhelm.
Since then, Johanna has felt much safer in social settings. She stopped feeling anxious about bumping into her ex. She became more skilled at asking for — and receiving — support from friends. She started to trust that connection could be reliable, nourishing, and safe. Most beautifully, she felt more secure dating again. Because she was no longer abandoning the child within her who had once felt so left behind — they were navigating relationships together, not in conflict, but in partnership.
Noah
Noah was struggling to make money. He was highly intelligent, deeply skilled, and fully committed to his business. Yet new clients seemed to appear in mysterious waves—only to vanish again, leaving long gaps of uncertainty. Despite all his effort and awareness, something invisible was getting in the way of stability and abundance.
Because Noah was already attuned to his body and had experience with inner work, I asked him directly:
“What’s between you and a continuous flow of clients, financial abundance, and the fulfillment of your dreams—those dreams that depend on having more money?”
The question landed deep in his body. He immediately felt a dense, constricting sensation in his stomach, abdominal wall, and diaphragm. I held space for him to stay with that sensation, gently guiding him inward. As he welcomed the feeling, flashbacks surfaced—of extreme emotional, intellectual, and physical abuse. The memories were soaked in a sense of unbearable unsafety, fragility, and powerlessness.
He realized that the violence of his father, combined with his mother’s inability to protect him, had planted a deep imprint: the world is not safe, and I must never become like my father. This second imprint caused Noah to subconsciously disown any qualities in himself that even slightly resembled his father—assertiveness, leadership, dominance, strength, self-assurance. In rejecting those parts of himself, Noah had also rejected his ability to protect and provide for himself.
Over six months, we worked through many layers using the Completion Process. We created healing for the parts of Noah that he had once abandoned in order to emotionally survive. Gradually, he began reclaiming his personal power. He discovered that the qualities he feared weren’t inherently dangerous—they could be expressed with integrity and care. Even if his father embodied them destructively, Noah could embody them with wisdom and purpose.
As the healing deepened, Noah began to see the broader pattern: his father had also been wounded by his father, and so on for generations. The violence Noah had experienced wasn’t just personal—it was ancestral. He realized he wasn’t merely a victim of his father; he was the embodiment of a lineage that had been victimizing itself.
Although this was a difficult truth to face, it brought with it a deeper kind of freedom. He saw that he was not separate from the lineage that had hurt him—he was that lineage. From that awareness, he could take ownership not only of the abuse he had suffered, but also of the abuse he, as the lineage itself, had perpetuated for many generations, from father to son. He realized that in his own life he had also perpetrated that abuse in more subtle ways.
This required Noah to stretch his sense of self—to expand it wide enough to include the whole field of ancestral consciousness, rather than splitting it off and projecting the darkness solely onto his father. By doing so, he stepped into a level of wholeness and responsibility that no man in his lineage had accessed before.
With this understanding, something shifted. Noah stopped pushing away his ancestry and started owning it. He chose to channel the energy of his lineage into something entirely different: connection, joy, clarity, and service. He became the first man in his family line to consciously choose how he wanted to direct his ancestral energy, instead of reacting to it with rejection or blind repetition.
Today, Noah is thriving. He no longer feels like the world is unsafe. He no longer fears his own strength. He’s attracting clients consistently and experiencing financial abundance—not because he “fixed” or “released” something, but because he reclaimed himself.
If he ever has children, the energy he passes on will no longer carry the wound of disconnection, but the presence of safety, integrity, encouragement, and compassion.
For now, Noah is simply enjoying this newfound freedom—a life where his dreams feel within reach, and where, perhaps for the first time, life truly feels like his own.
Jules
Jules had persistent eczema on his face and neck that would flare up during times of stress or emotional instability. Rather than treating the symptoms on the surface, we approached the rash as a messenger. I guided him to connect with the consciousness of the inflamed skin, inviting him to explore the message his body was expressing through it.
As he turned inward, frustration and resentment rose to the surface. At first, Jules believed these feelings were resistance to the process itself. But after discussing it with me, he chose to stay with the discomfort, even though it felt deeply unsafe.
With reassurance—that I was there with him, that he could share anything with me, that nothing he could feel or express would lead to rejection—Jules slowly opened to the intensity. What he uncovered was a deep sense of repression: a belief that expressing his truth, anger, or needs would lead to destruction—that speaking up could cause catastrophe or even death, and that it would somehow all be his fault.
As we continued, two distinct inner parts made themselves known. One felt small, terrified, and profoundly alone—convinced that no one would protect or prioritize him. The other held a quiet, smoldering rage—an implosion of resentment toward his caregivers for repeatedly crossing his boundaries, for not listening, for never asking what he needed. We gave both parts validation, voice, and the safety they had never known.
Over time, Jules began to reclaim his right to express needs and set boundaries, even as he learned to hold the fear of punishment or retaliation. As he practiced this in his closest relationships, his skin began to clear—and with it, his relationship to truth and connection began to transform.
Now, whenever a flare-up begins to appear, Jules recognizes it as a signal: somewhere, he’s silencing himself again. His partner, attuned to this pattern, will sometimes gently ask, “Is there something you’re not saying?”—an invitation for honesty, not conflict. These days, full flare-ups are rare. By staying attuned to this part of himself, Jules is usually able to hear the message before it erupts through his skin.
As Jules grows into the safety of being fully himself in relationship, he curates his circle with care—surrounding himself with people who can stay present with his truth without pulling away. His skin, once a battlefield of repressed emotion, has become a sensitive, honest ally—guiding him toward deeper connection, both with others and with himself.
Final Thoughts
As we come to the end of this exploration into the Completion Process, I want to leave you with a few reflections that speak to the heart of this work and offer some next steps if you feel called to go deeper.
The Power of Turning Toward Pain Instead of Away
In a world that teaches us to numb, bypass, or outrun our pain, turning toward it can feel counter-intuitive — even terrifying. But something profound happens when we stop fighting our inner world and instead meet it with presence and curiosity.
Pain is not our enemy. It's a messenger — often the part of us that didn't get to speak when it needed to. Through the Completion Process, we learn to listen, to witness, and to bring love to the places inside us that have long felt abandoned or exiled.
This kind of turning toward doesn't make life magically easy, well… sometimes it does — but often it will feel worse before it feels better. But it does make us more whole, more honest, and more alive. We reclaim pieces of ourselves we didn't even realize we'd lost. And from that place of integration, we begin to feel the ground of our being again — not as a concept, but as a felt experience.
Invitation to Reach Out or Book a Session
If you resonate with this process, or if you're in a moment of your life where something inside is asking to be seen, I invite you to reach out. Whether you're feeling lost, stuck, overwhelmed, or simply curious — you don’t have to walk this path alone.
I offer 1:1 sessions where we can gently and safely explore what's arising for you using tools like the Completion Process, other forms of shadow work, and somatic integration. Each session is a co-creative space where all parts of you are welcome — even the ones that feel most unlovable or hard to face.
Sometimes the most courageous step is simply saying yes to being supported.
Resources, Sessions & Offerings
Here are a few ways you can connect with this work more deeply:
Recommended reading and watching on the Completion Process:
The Completion Process book, by Teal Swan.
Thank you for being here. Thank you for being so brave to be willing to feel — that’s where healing, authenticity, connection, and self-awareness begin.
Ending With an Invitation
Healing doesn’t have to be about effort or striving. It can be about remembering what you already know deep down: how to feel, how to be with yourself, and how to come home.
If any part of this spoke to you… this path is open.
You don’t have to keep fixing yourself. You don’t have to keep pretending you’re okay.
There’s a place where all of you is welcome.
And it 's not far.
It’s inside you, waiting to be found again.
This is the work I do.
I would be honored to walk with you and support you in walking towards yourself.
